A few weeks ago I noticed Brock was a little cross-eyed. I was concerned but figured I’d wait until his 4 year well-visit in April to ask his doctor about it. It was a week later, when I covered one eye and he told me he couldn’t see anything out of the other, that I made an appointment to get his vision checked, stat. The nurse had him read an eye chart and he would not, could not, see it with his right eye. After struggling to get him to try because he was fighting it so much, the nurse said to me, “I don’t think he can see.” Tears.
He has been diagnosed with amblyopia and strabismus, also known as a lazy eye and cross-eyed. I always thought they were one in the same and that it just meant the eye turned in, nothing more. Amblyopia (lazy eye) is actually where the brain is suppressing the vision from one eye, opting not to use it rather than trying to make sense of the blurry image it receives. This is totally my layman’s description of this, I am not an ophthalmologist nor do I fully understand what is going on just yet, this is just how I’m interpreting what I’ve read and been told. His treatment is glasses and patching.
When I was a kid I wished I wore glasses! I wore my mom’s cat eye glasses she had as a kid even though it hurt my eyes and requested eye exams at the first sign of any strain. I complained that I was cursed with good vision. During my pregnancy with Brock my eyes went nuts and my dream came true – I finally needed glasses! I dashed down to Lens Crafters and got myself a pair of green Prada specs and wore them like a champion. As soon as he was born I didn’t really need them anymore and now they just sit in a drawer, coming out every now and then when I’ve been staring at the computer screen for too long or I just want to look cool.
For someone who loves glasses so much, I was surprised at my fear and concern over Brock wearing them. My first thought was a visual of the “nerdy” kid from elementary school- he wears glasses, dresses kind of lame and is labeled a nerd from the get go and goes through elementary school and beyond, never shedding that label. I felt like this single item – glasses – was going to alter the course of Brock’s life. Instead of being into sports or rock and roll, he’d be destined for a life of D&D and Lolcats.
The day he got his glasses I was horrified to see one lens as thick as a bottle and magnifying his eye to Office Space proportions. That magnified eye magnified my fears of him being picked on or being seen as a nerd. Brock has always been extremely outgoing and charming, challenging me to step out of my comfort zone because I now have to interact with all these strangers that he talks to, and he talks to them all. And now that he had his glasses, the behavior I used to view as charismatic or social started to look a little goofy and gawky. Geeky, even. This slight shift in my perception of my son really threw me for a loop. Obviously I have some issues with image I need to work out for myself, because he hasn’t changed. He’s the same awesome kid he’s always been, he just has glasses on his face.
I’ve been photographing him through this change and made him my own little project. It’s been great because it has given me an objective look at my son. I can look through these images and see that his personality is the same, he looks darn cute in his specs, and he’s still as wonderful as ever. Even though it’s only been a couple weeks he already looks odd to me when he doesn’t have them on, like a bearded man who shaves for the first time in years.
It seems like this diagnosis explains some of his behaviors that we always chided him for. He would always crash into people, get right in their face to talk with no sense of personal space, and his little brother at 12 months old was way better at throwing a ball than he was. Now it seem that it all stems from his vision, or lack of.
It was pretty funny when the optometrist put his glasses on him for the first time. The first thing he said to her was “Wow, you’re old!” We took it as confirmation that he could see much better with them on.






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I have to admit that I’m obsessed with this project. I love thinking about the details and I love finding them!
You rock, Miss Ketti, thank you for the fun idea, and I love seeing your pics!
Wonderful!
very sweet. i must say… that first image certainly wouldn’t have made my heart swell with love. ha ha. but it’s cute none the less. :-)